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Post by watchman on Oct 4, 2008 20:56:16 GMT -5
I know there are some here with children.
How about some thoughts on raisng them?
From those whose are already grown. If they turned out well; why?
If not what would you do different?
From those who are currently raising them. What works? what does not?
What would you do different?
Any questions? concerns?
How many children do you have?
Want more?
Anyone feel like giving up? need encouragement?
Who has little babies and need sleep?, burned out ?
Anyone with difficult teens?
Boyfriend /girlfriend ( of your teens ) issues or problems?
Drugs, alcohol issues?
How have you dealt with these?
College age still at home issues?
Toddlers wearing you out?
How about some cute kid stories?
For those who do not have any yet but want them at some point. Any questions?
Anyone not want any at all? why not?
Any encouraging stories that might help others?
mike
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Post by Aussie Rob on Oct 5, 2008 12:29:24 GMT -5
Bread and water sent to the attic twice a day seems to work for me.
Space heater goes up there in the winter.
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Post by Charlie on Oct 5, 2008 13:18:04 GMT -5
When I was a kid we had a toaster. Hot meals and an space heater wrapped up in 1 unit.
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Post by jbird on Oct 5, 2008 14:58:08 GMT -5
To the wood shed with nothing but the end of a leather belt  Seem to do wonders for me!!! LOL! |
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Post by watchman on Oct 5, 2008 16:59:51 GMT -5
these questions are from the parents point of view.
this is not about how you were raised but how you are raising your own kids
mike
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Post by Aussie Rob on Oct 6, 2008 15:43:43 GMT -5
Isn't that why the general discussion drawer was set up?
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Post by Aussie Rob on Oct 6, 2008 16:38:08 GMT -5
I respectfully disagree. If there wasn't demand for a place where people who have met through the club to talk about current affairs etc, then you wouldn't be having the problem (if having to scroll past text on a screen qualifies as a 'problem') you seem to be having.
I'm sorry you're inconvenienced that your 50 most recent post feature is cluttered....but if the choice is between you having to scroll past non-tri posts, or perhaps viewing the board in the traditional matter; and stifling discussion between members that they obviously enjoy....then frankly (and of course this is my bias) i would choose the former.
But hey, you're the admin speaking for the masses; i just post here.
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Post by watchman on Oct 6, 2008 18:21:37 GMT -5
I thought non triathlon topics meant that.
Most of the 90% time I read and post on the Triathlon threads. This is something I look at occasionally. I added this about childern as a way of getting to know people and hearing others thoughts on an important subject. It cannot be a divisive as the political ones. Even those are very insightful even if I may not always agree.
This club seems like a small "family" so I was looking at a way to help and encourage.
was anyone offended?
mike
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Post by RoviChris on Oct 6, 2008 20:06:29 GMT -5
Obviously Amy uses the last 50 link to remain abreast of the forum as others probably do.
Lately there's been very little action in the forum as the race season wraps up for all but a few marathons and Kona of course.
I for one don't mind a topic like this in the NON-TRIATHLON-RELATED area hence the definition on the Forum home page "Talk about anything here that is generally non-triathlon-related in nature".
Reply to the original post:
2-3/4 year old girl named Brooke
Learned so say NO very loudly in the last few months.
Sleeps from 8:30-7 95% of the time.
So far timeouts seem to be working for most issues.
Other than refusing to eat at meal time she's an angel and couldn't have asked for anything more.
Not looking forward to dealing with a teenager in 10 years, who knows what the issues will be then, and I'll be in my 50's!?
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Post by jbird on Oct 7, 2008 9:53:32 GMT -5
Sorry my first reply was so tongue and cheek. I have three sons; 3,6,and 17. It has been very challenging over the years. I have matured alot since my first son was born. Unfortunately I made many mistakes raising my first son. With my two youngest it has been easier. Patience and just letting them be kids is very important. Love and cherish the quality time you do get to spend with them. Heck make time. Sometimes I find myself getting caught up in too much training, and it becomes hard. I have learned to manage my time much better recently, and it has paid dividends with my relationships at home. It is so easy to lay awake at nite and second guess your parenting choices. Just remember it is ok to make mistakes, and don't be afraid of letting your kids know when you have. P.S. I need this part of the forum.
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Post by watchman on Oct 7, 2008 16:37:11 GMT -5
For the record. I asked these questions as a way of making conversation. It would be like if we were all standing around after a race. You ask questions and talk about what interest you. I am into Drag Racing, Triathlons and Children.
I have children in every category I listed ( for those who did not know) I have an infant 4 months
a toddler 3 years, 2 preschool 4 and 6
2 grade school 8 and 9, 2 junior high 11 and 12
4 high school 14, 15, 16, 17 and 2 college age 19 and 21 so I can realte to any situation .
Yes 14 kids ( same Mom , no twins).
I just wanted to bring up a subject that we could share insight.
I guess I could talk about coming triathlon events
HMMMM
Who is going to do the Polar Plunge? I can't wait.
Maybe we should put out bouys and make it 1/4 mile out then back.
I am sure there would be some PR's set
mike
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Post by jbird on Oct 8, 2008 10:02:22 GMT -5
OMG! 14 children! God bless you man. I can't for the life of me wrap my mind around that one. You and your wife need to receive some kind of award. How are you able to give them all the love and attention they need? My three sons are so needy, that I can't understand how you and your wife manage it all.
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Post by watchman on Oct 8, 2008 12:37:16 GMT -5
OMG! 14 children! God bless you man. I can't for the life of me wrap my mind around that one. You and your wife need to receive some kind of award. How are you able to give them all the love and attention they need? My three sons are so needy, that I can't understand how you and your wife manage it all. Actually 14 is easier in a lot of ways than say 2 or 3 little ones. We have many helpers. They all do their own wash. My wife only has to do her own. The older kids each have a younger one that they help with. Pj's on, breakfast, put coat on ect. I am thankful for each one. The blessing multiply but not the trouble. My oldest son is a faithful man (21) who has a good job. My oldest daughter (19) could be a model, has been hired to make over 20 wedding cakes, sings, plays piano and guitar and she has been in a movie ( not out yet) She was the lead actress. My next son (17) is gifted in baseball, debate and plays the viloa. He is in Washington DC for 15 weeks getting some inside experience to "that world". Of the rest I have 4 that play gutiar, 4 that play piano, one on cello. You should see how fast I can shovel my driveway, mow my lawn and rake my leaves and I do not sweat a bit. The last four little boys are a handful . Alot of energy. Keeps me young. The challenge is individual time. They take turns staying up late. Whenever I go anywhere I take one with me. I try to find something to connect with each one. The older boys it was coaching baseball which I did for many years. At one time I had 8 kids playing and I coached 3 different teams. I am involved with some who have been in a debate club where I helped coach. I have taken some to Drag Races( the oldest daughter has the most interest). Right now I have a 14 year old boy and 12 year old girl who are getting into triathlons. The girl is amazingly fast runner. Tall long skinny legs. Instead of baseball I am going to try and get the younger ones (14,12, 11, 9, 8, 7, 4, 3 and 5 months) into triathlons instead of baseball. We will see. One good thing about so many is they have each other. They are never bored. They are forced to learn to ; share, put others first, wait their turn ect. Things many adults have not learned. One thing is for sure. I will not have to worry about the "empty nest " issue for a long time. also any awards go to my wife. Her job is far more difficult than mine. I just try to think of ways to help her. mike |
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Post by marx brothers on Oct 26, 2008 14:49:30 GMT -5
I am late on this one since I spend most of my days now with the TriCowTown Club in DFW. Many of you know Brandon, now 21, who largely grew up in CTC and some have seen Talitha, age 15 race or more often cheering. If I could give one piece of advice it is this. Date your children weekly. No excuses. I did this when we were poor and when we were rich. I do the same with my wife but this is about kids. Date your kids. You won't regret the time invested, especially in turbulent teenage years. Before Brandon left for college we counted it up and we had over 900 dates, 1-3 hours at a time. No regrets man.
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Post by Jack Carney on Oct 28, 2008 8:53:01 GMT -5
I agree it gets pretty boring here during the off season. I like to think the forum is a community and while the thing that brings us together is triathlon I am interested in hearing about what people think about other things. I am considering building a social site for us to to go to so we avoid the occasional complaints about non tri items being discussed but I wonder if that may take away from this site in any way which I would not want to do. I think what we have here is pretty cool and the level of help and cooperation is awesome. Some great friendships have also been developed and I have told many people outside of this group how great the support and friendliness is from the members. Any thoughts?
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Post by Brian Luther on Oct 28, 2008 9:33:04 GMT -5
Mike,
Hats off too you and your wife and family!
Sounds like you are from the "Waltons"! Great kids, and a great outlook on life! Keep it up!
Brian
p.s. as for Amy L interupting your post! I am sorry! Amy, maybe if there is an issue about communication you do not like, please discuss it with a new post.... It would be so much more considerate .......
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Post by gvale on Oct 28, 2008 15:36:00 GMT -5
Why not just let it die? I thought this Post was dead weeks ago.
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Post by MarkD on Oct 29, 2008 8:04:19 GMT -5
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